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Originally Posted by Emaafre
(Post 485867)
I want to lose weight. I'm 12, I'm 5'10" and I weigh 162.5. A normal twelve year old is just reaching 100 pounds, aren't they? I feel really self conscious about my body, and I try to wear baggy clothing to hide it. I'm afraid that if I tell people how much I weigh that they'll laugh at me and say I'm fat. I think I should go on an extreme diet.
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M'kay, time to look here, honey, 'cause I've got some experience in this particular situation.
First of all, if you're truly 5'10", you're extremely tall for your age. I'm fourteen and 5'7", one of the tallest girls in my grade. You might wanna remeasure yourself before making proper judgement on if your weight, because the taller you are, the heaver you're going to be. The average weight for twelve-year-old girls
is about 100 lbs., but the average height is about 5'1 1/2". Therefore, you're not going to weigh the same amount as the average girl. It's just natural.
(Also, taller girls are naturally stronger than those of average height, so if you've got muscle, you're gonna weigh more as well. Muscle weighs more than fat.)
Second of all, if you're self-conscious about your body, you want to wear just the
opposite of baggy clothes. If you wear sweatpants and tees two sizes too big all the time, you're going to feel lazier, feel like you could eat more. That's exactly what you
don't want to feel. You wanna get clothes that fit correctly to your body shape and make you feel as fabulous as you look. It's a pain shopping for them, I know, and can feel embarrassing, but it's worth it. Once you've got a wardrobe of nicely-fitting shirts and cute pants you love, you won't feel so sour about getting up in the morning and picking our your outfit. Don't be too judgmental on yourself trying on clothes, but don't warp your reflection just because you want something to fit. It's best to get another person's opinion on it as well as your own, judging them both equally before reaching a verdict. Picking our clothes you like is a challenge, but don't pick out ones that make you feel less than you want to. That's just a drag.
Third of all, don't starve yourself. Don't. But don't gorge yourself, either. Eat only when you're hungry, and don't stuff yourself full when you are. If your parents call you to dinner and your stomach doesn't feel empty, explain to them that you only want to eat when you're hungry so you can lose weight. Hopefully, they go for it. Try to stick to healthier foods, but don't let yourself become a vegetarian if it's absolute torture to you. Do what feels best to you, even if you really really
really want that last cupcake.
Fourth of all, try to get out and exercise. Yeah, you'll get all sweaty and tired, but it will help you sleep, get you hungry, and make you feel a hell of a lot better than just sitting around all day.
(haha i am such a hypocrite at the moment ;-; )
Fifth of all, don't get so down on yourself. Looking in the mirror and calling yourself ugly ain't gonna make you lose weight. Trying to skin the extra fat from your forearm with a razor won't do you any good. Hating yourself won't make you love yourself. Accept that you've got weight issues and try to do something about it. If people call you fat, yeah, it's gonna hurt, but you can't just go through life terrified they're gonna pick on you. It may be the toughest thing in the world, but you can at least attempt to pack up all those little worries and throw 'em out the window. Be what you're gonna be and don't let anyone fuck with you, 'cause no matter how gross you feel, there's always gonna be some way you can pick yourself up off the ground, whether it's with someone else's help or you just being your own hero. You're gonna have moments where you're stuck, but if you can unstick yourself and take care of yourself, life's gonna be a hell of a lot smoother. Don't let little things like weight get you down, 'cause that's just fucking stupid. You're fucking fantastic if you think you're fucking fantastic. \o/
