happy vent: i love my girlfriend

Hello, lovely one, I'm rooting for you.

This is hard. This is very, very hard. I can't teach you what you need to know to get past this, because I don't know.
I offer you this- I know someone that's fighting a battle like yours and she's still alive and fighting.
I think you may need to ask for in-real-life attention and help at this point, because all I can do is offer encouraging words. As for what KidPub can do to help, I think that AlgebraAddict, Esther, will probably have some very good ideas for coping strategies.

From what I know, have been taught, have seen, you are not deserving of suffering. You are made beautiful and unique. I've been taught that every person in this world is here to fulfil a mission. Do not destroy yourself, Rainbow, because if you do, there will not be another Rainbow to replace you. Everything you are and might have been will be lost. You are necessary.

Even though I don't know you very well, we've met a few times in KidMUD. I'm growing fond of you.

I love you. I wish you great joy.

My whole family wants me to change my name for the 1000th time cause there's a distant relative w/ the name Theo. I've met him once and he's 3/4... I'm not sure whether they're right lmao, it's making me upset bc they said I'm causing grief in the family and they support me but not my name lol. Some people on reddit suggested that I use a middle name w/ them instead, but if I'm sure on Theo then that's what my legal first name could be. Only trouble is I need a good MN... aghhghffjfgh why is life tough.

well I couldn't go on a day trip to go pet baby animals because I was crying in the gatehouse basement, then had to go see my family so yeah. good day.

don't provoke me and I'm harmless,,, ,,,, , it ain't my fault it yours

it's been really scary lately.

i just found out that my best friend is cutting herself.
my friends from choir is very emotionally unstable and has tried to commit suicide.
there have been so many suicides in my area recently, including a freshman from a local private school.
many of my friends are really struggling with depression and they don't know what to do.

I am lost. How do I help? I feel so helpless, so sad for them. My heart is broken for them and I have no clue to help. do you guys have any suggestions? ik most of you have been through this stuff/have friends who have and I never even guessed that so many of my friends were going through this and i want to say the right things and help effectively. I cannot stand on the sidelines any more. anything that would help, please please let me know.

Helpful advice - Life is worth living
 

Hey! In case you get around to reading this, I'm here to offer a little bit of guidance if you'd like.

While I've never had friends who considered self harm seriously, I knew this one person who mentioned suicide as a thought nonchalantly.

Story time: This person got me alarmed. Like, right off the bat, I began to ask her questions so I could find a reason. She had spoken about it to a group of others I knew and didn't bother to fill me in. After understanding her personal cause of behavior, I deduced that she was just throwing the word "suicide" around.

Although upset, I took that moment to teach her: She just shouldn't speak of suicide so lightly. That stuff is heavy and has consequences! I made sure that I was there for her as a friend whether if she meant it or not.

So, the point of that story is to connect it to yours. If YOUR friend/friends are actually serious about self harm and are looking for a way out, remind them of the aftermath. You'd be sad and I'm sure their families would be sad. The community would be sad. Show them the things life is worth living for. Just when you think you aren't being helpful, you truly are by caring.

The title "friend" isn't there for nothing. Real friends lift each other up and encourage one another to keep going. They should be able to listen to your words as you tell them suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Convince them with the powerful words of a writer. Compose an individual speech for each and every one of your friends who may be suicidal. Do whatever it takes to make them open their eyes. It gets better.

Good luck. I was passionate about this post, so I hope you can see how these tips may be useful. :)

hey thanks a lot :) that means a ton and it does help! i appreciate how much thought you put into it!!

@autumn yoo my dude u should respond to my email

as someone who was highkey suicidal but is now only lowkey suicidal tbh i never really thought people would care. like if i killed myself, i'd be doing myself and everyone else a favor. and sure, in the beginning, when my friends told me positive things and validated me, it helped. but now, it feels sappy and cheesy and insincere. i hate it when people tell me that things will get better, because for some people, it doesnt. you just have to find a way to cope. and i hate when people tell me how worthy and good i am, it makes me feel sick and i hate it. after dealing with mental illness and suicidal ideation for like 6 years, people telling me how much they care about me just sounds like noise. doesnt mean shit.

tbh this past winter the only thing that kept me alive was the knowledge that my cats would be thrown outside and fed crappy food if i werent around. i stuck around for the cats.

that being said, superj's advice might still work confuzzled. i was just sharing my perspective bc what might work for some might not work for others