cheezemziez |
12-29-2012 07:45 AM |
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Originally Posted by LaurenM
(Post 392221)
This is the first time you slapped me. Five times. Or more. I'm not sure. And punched my skull.
I'm sorry I called you a piece of shit, though it was in Chinese and was more like 'poop'.
Even though you deserved it.
You said, if my behaviour is exemplary throughout a month, you'd apologise for hitting me. I was genuinely sorry, but after what you said, how can I continue being apologetic?
I don't think I can ever talk to you any more.
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Is this about your dad?
He should have apologised immediately, even if he thinks it helped you in the long run. Your behaviour in the next month is nothing to do with whatever you said. And what kind of a lesson is that to teach your children?
No matter how he treats you, you are expected to forgive him because he is only doing what he thinks is best for you. It's not fair. When our parents get older and we are to care for them, if we hit them then we would be arrested for assault, because they would be elderly and frail. But we're not as strong as they are now, but they can do this to us, because they are our parents and they are there to discipline us.
Parents from other cultures have different disciplinary methods. Apparently Asian parents' are the most effective, and command the most respect. Our parents are different people in our lives compared to what Western parents are in their children's lives.
When I was younger, I got lost when we were in China, and when my dad found me he slapped me seven times across the face. Passer-bys, including a police officer, didn't blink an eye. If he did that in London, he would have been arrested and I would probably be living away from him. He forgets stuff quite easily, and we haven't really spoken of it since. But it changed my view of him. I don't really like being near him any more. Of course, this particular instance didn't really stop me from doing it again, because I didn't mean to in the first place.
I'm not sure how this is supposed to help. But I advise you to remember how you feel about this. In case you decide to have children, or anyone of importance in your life does in future.
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