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Owen-L 05-15-2013 02:45 PM

just shut the fuck up

Sandy 05-15-2013 05:31 PM

This is really personal
 
Am I a bad person for not having a boyfriend in high school?
I'm going to be fifteen soon...

I've never been kissed, I've never even had a mutual crush.
Does this make me... a bad person?
Am I a loser?
Am I stupid?

There's so much peer pressure...

(*needs reassurance that I'm not doing something wrong*)

camikat 05-15-2013 05:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sandy (Post 458717)
Am I a bad person for not having a boyfriend in high school?
I'm going to be fifteen soon...

I've never been kissed, I've never even had a mutual crush.
Does this make me... a bad person?
Am I a loser?
Am I stupid?

There's so much peer pressure...

(*needs reassurance that I'm not doing something wrong*)

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Your friends might have boyfriends and date and all that mess, but it's okay if you aren't. If you're just not ready for it, or simply don't want to do it, shame on your peers/society for thinking otherwise.

Personally, I don't think I'll get a boyfriend/get kissed until I'm at least sixteen. :D

L.S.Trendom 05-15-2013 05:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sandy (Post 458717)
Am I a bad person for not having a boyfriend in high school?
I'm going to be fifteen soon...

I've never been kissed, I've never even had a mutual crush.
Does this make me... a bad person?
Am I a loser?
Am I stupid?

There's so much peer pressure...

(*needs reassurance that I'm not doing something wrong*)

Nooooo you're not. I'm sixteen, turning seventeen in a few months (oh god) and I've never been kissed either.
You aren't a bad person or a loser or stupid for that.

Sandy 05-15-2013 06:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by camikat (Post 458722)
There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Your friends might have boyfriends and date and all that mess, but it's okay if you aren't. If you're just not ready for it, or simply don't want to do it, shame on your peers/society for thinking otherwise.

Personally, I don't think I'll get a boyfriend/get kissed until I'm at least sixteen. :D

Thanks. <:/
I'm putting my bets on when I'm in university, possibly later. I really don't want to rush, AT ALL. Normally I would be almost immune to this whole peer pressure thing, but... I don't know. In the span of two weeks, my entire friend group hooked up with itself. o_o Like, suddenly everyone is in pairs, and then there's just me, watching everyone get together and trying not to feel like I should rush into this. And the worst part is that I know perfectly well that if I DO give in, I'm going to regret it. It's like I'm being torn apart by the part of myself that is rational, logical, and knows me for who I am, and... something weaker.
(*sigh*)


Quote:

Originally Posted by L.S.Trendom (Post 458725)
Nooooo you're not. I'm sixteen, turning seventeen in a few months (oh god) and I've never been kissed either.
You aren't a bad person or a loser or stupid for that.

Thanks, man. <:/ That means a lot. I'm just really done with being ashamed of it and, at the same time, knowing that I shouldn't be. My parents are proud of me, my friends agree with me... yet I've been in this rut for the past week, thinking that there must be something wrong with me because of it, that maybe I need to put my grades aside to get a boyfriend. Peer pressure is making me really irrational, I guess.

Thanks, camikat and LST. (*hugs*)

bookworm1999 05-16-2013 12:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sandy (Post 458717)
Am I a bad person for not having a boyfriend in high school?
I'm going to be fifteen soon...

I've never been kissed, I've never even had a mutual crush.
Does this make me... a bad person?
Am I a loser?
Am I stupid?

There's so much peer pressure...

(*needs reassurance that I'm not doing something wrong*)

No.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you not having a boyfriend. Honestly, in my personal opinion, I think the whole concept is stupid, at this age anyways. I mean, I thought dating was to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Not willy nilly unneeded drama. It's ridiculous.

TheAshWolf 05-16-2013 12:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sandy (Post 458717)
Am I a bad person for not having a boyfriend in high school?
I'm going to be fifteen soon...

I've never been kissed, I've never even had a mutual crush.
Does this make me... a bad person?
Am I a loser?
Am I stupid?

There's so much peer pressure...

(*needs reassurance that I'm not doing something wrong*)

You are many things, Cassandra. A bad person is not one of them.
(And I know how you feel about the 15 thing....oh gosh, I keep getting asked how old I am, lately, and my brain keeps wanting to tell them I'm 13....x__x I think my brain is trying to defend itself from turning 16 or something. XD XD DX DX)

I've never been kissed, either. o_o *shrugs*

Are you stupid?
http://25.media.tumblr.com/936a417f4...jjtzo1_400.gif

Are you a loser?

http://media.tumblr.com/3c5c82b20b62...pjF1qz4rgp.gif


I know this has already been said, but...*takes deep breath*....Sandy...you're doing absolutely nothing wrong. <:^J It's not sensible to get into any kind of a romantic relationship at this point in your life. Like you said, if you did, you would regret it later. Relationships are incredibly complicated, and demand a LOT of attention. Not to mention there's a 99% chance you'll just end up hurt and feeling more lonely than ever, because EVERYONE in your grade is quite simply not ready for a relationship, which I'm sure you already know.

Nevertheless, I know what you mean. Everyone is pairing off, and you're just sort of in the background...alone. The thing is, Sandy...you're not alone. We may all be just text on a screen to you, but we've chosen not to get involved in all of that drama just like you have. There is a person behind every single line of text, here.

And each and every one of us would be lying if we said that we never feel lonely, and that peer pressure doesn't affect us at all. Most of us feel lonely a lot of the time, and we all have our weak points when it comes to how our peers influence us.

Just try not to worry about all this, okay? Just...try. I know it's hard. But you've gotten through so many things in your life that were a LOT tougher than this. And if you ever want to talk or need some reassurance again...*gestures to the EVT* we're all here, and we're all rooting for you. ^_^

bookworm1999 05-16-2013 12:41 AM

Meh..... ._.

TheAshWolf 05-16-2013 12:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bookworm1999 (Post 459000)
Meh..... ._.

Are you alright, Kenny? D:

bookworm1999 05-16-2013 12:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheAshWolf (Post 459003)
Are you alright, Kenny? D:

*glares for long moment*
*shrugs*
Meh.... ._.


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