Originally Posted by Zelda (Post 595256)

I was re-reading because reasons and actually I think I have a sort-of answer for your friend.
I was having some discourse with someone via wattpad, they were confused what demi/demiro was, and they made me realize that demisexual/romantic in and of itself doesn't meet the right specifications to be an orientation, because it doesn't specify what sex or gender you are attracted to. In reality demi is a blanket term, and should be used as a prefix. For instance, you're friend would be demi-homoromantic.
so there's your daily pedantics lesson.

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on another note, I have conquered the What Am problem, and the How Tell Friends problem (my friends are all mostly super chill yo). Now I must face the How Tell Parents, suggestions?
My current considerations are;
- Put drawing of skull and crossbones that reads 'asexual pirates have no interest in your booty' on my wall and wait for mom to notice.
- Use the kitchen wall chalkboard to draw an ace card with the words 'I'm ace'
- Write a sentence under the current chalkboard drawing that reads 'Let's get one thing straight; I'm not'
If you can't tell, I'm trying to avoid actually talking to them, because the spoken word fails me and heaven forbid my mom take the time to see a point of view other than her own.

Also! Apparently there is a lack of straight kids in the extracur band/drama.
so far we have;
- a really really gay boy (hey there, Zane)
- a pan girl who is also head of the lgbt+ chapter at our school
- a {closeted} lesbian
- a {probably closeted} bi/aro girl
- your friendly neighbourhood ace
- I'm pretty sure one of the other girl's isn't entirely straight. like 80% sure.
It doesn't seem like that much, but when you consider that there are only 25 kids in band, it's somewhat significant.

Originally Posted by Swallowtail (Post 595262)

also with your whole lack of straight kids in band I raise you the lack of straight kids in my school.
I haven't roomed with a single straight person (I've had six roommates this year)
one term there wasn't a single straight student in the smaller girls' dorm
out of the 17 (?) freshmen there are about 6 or 7 straight kids. the rest are LGBTQ+
literally less than a third of girls at my school are straight.
but now the problem is I come home and everyone is SO STRAIGHT
also I feel like an undercover agent or some shit every time my parents or brother say something offensive

Originally Posted by Zelda (Post 595263)

That sounds like the premises for a superhero academy story! Like it's disguised as a normal boarding school but secretely it's for all the non straight kids, every once in a while a straight kid will show up and the head of the school is like 'ok whatever, you can stay to make the school look more straight so all our gay cuties can keep coming without worrying about being outed'.
Also same? Like my mom's pretty chill most of the time, but sometimes it's like? Can u not??

Originally Posted by Swallowtail (Post 595262)

also with your whole lack of straight kids in band I raise you the lack of straight kids in my school.
I haven't roomed with a single straight person (I've had six roommates this year)
one term there wasn't a single straight student in the smaller girls' dorm
out of the 17 (?) freshmen there are about 6 or 7 straight kids. the rest are LGBTQ+
literally less than a third of girls at my school are straight.
but now the problem is I come home and everyone is SO STRAIGHT
also I feel like an undercover agent or some shit every time my parents or brother say something offensive

Originally Posted by SilverMoon (Post 595266)

where the fuck do you go to school i want to go there



that said, my school is pretty queer as well

Originally Posted by Zelda (Post 595256)

I was re-reading because reasons and actually I think I have a sort-of answer for your friend.
I was having some discourse with someone via wattpad, they were confused what demi/demiro was, and they made me realize that demisexual/romantic in and of itself doesn't meet the right specifications to be an orientation, because it doesn't specify what sex or gender you are attracted to. In reality demi is a blanket term, and should be used as a prefix. For instance, you're friend would be demi-homoromantic.
so there's your daily pedantics lesson.

Originally Posted by Zelda (Post 595306)

I was arguing with someone today about the various fine details of asexuality, and they seem to believe that being on the ace spectrum and being actually asexual are the same, and thus it is possible to be both asexual and pansexual at the same time.

So I raise this to you all for discussion.

My opinion is that it's not possible, since you can't have both a sex drive and a lack of a sex drive at the same time. But, maybe someone here will be able to put together a better argument than the person I was originally talking to (she struggled. And she stopped replying eventually)