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Lily09 01-20-2014 12:05 AM

for example, when im older i plan on going on T and getting surgery for my boobs but i'd still be transgender, because i'm not changing my SEX.

rebecca 01-20-2014 01:24 PM


Originally Posted by Lily09 (Post 515837)
and about that person's personal post:
Rebecca, it's important for trans* people to be able to express who they are. Maybe in your mind, cis and trans* people are equal, but in reality, they aren't. We really aren't. We get discriminated and oppressed everyday. By saying that it doesn't matter what gender we are, you're ignoring the privilege cis people have. You're ignoring that cis people are already considered to be above trans* people. By yelling "CIS AND TRANS* PEOPLE ARE EQUAL IT DOESNT MATTER" you're ignoring the problems that we face, because no, we are not treated equally. We're never gonna get anywhere by saying over and over that everything is equal and we should stop "overreacting", because that allows cis people to say "Yeah. We can keep treating them how we usually treat them! It doesn't matter that they don't have our privilege! It doesn't matter that we're actually unequal~!" Yes, the post was kind of transphobic. If you really want to be supportive of us, please listen to us when we say you are being transphobic.
Real discrimination? Real problems?
Not being able to express ourselves is a real problem. We have to decide whether or not we want to be dysphoric. Please don't try to minimize our problems by telling us what is real and what isn't.

What I meant was all I saw was a clothes swap. Thanks for explaining reasonably.

Yeah, I just feel so socially stupid that I didn't realise. I'm an idiot.
Then I had a meltdown afterwards. Which is even more stupid.

rebecca 01-20-2014 01:26 PM

The thing that scares me is I still don't entirely get it and I don't want to be transphobic, even by accident because that makes me a bad person.

Lily09 01-20-2014 02:01 PM


Originally Posted by rebecca (Post 515944)
What I meant was all I saw was a clothes swap. Thanks for explaining reasonably.

Yeah, I just feel so socially stupid that I didn't realise. I'm an idiot.
Then I had a meltdown afterwards. Which is even more stupid.


Originally Posted by rebecca (Post 515946)
The thing that scares me is I still don't entirely get it and I don't want to be transphobic, even by accident because that makes me a bad person.

It's okay! That's not stupid, it's exhausting to put your opinion out there. I've worried myself to the point I felt like I was going to vomit after some arguments(not healthy though 0/10 would not ever again). Most of us are raised cissexist and even transphobic, so it's hard to unlearn that. But as long as you try your best to understand or listen, you're on the right path (:

Ember 01-20-2014 03:27 PM

Well, I don't like to whine but- oh, who am I kidding?

Look, I love my parents to death. They're hilarious, sarcastic, amazing people. But, well, I'm the youngest of four, and I have absolutely NO ONE to even talk to. I have lost my childhood, and have been forced to grow up too fast. Okay, I'm going too fast. Now, my parents, they're, well, they're old. That sounds so bratty, but they are. My mom is always "too tired" to do anything with me. And our backyard sucks, we don't even have a good tree to climb, so I've grown up inside. With nothing to do but watch TV. I hate it. I've gotten, well, I prefer the term chubby, and lazy, and boring. I've recently found I love running, but my mom won't let me do it alone, and no one is going to do it with me. They're too old and tired. Oh, man, I'm a brat. I've got everything in the world, except a childhood. None of my friends live nearby, and I don't even have a freaking tree to climb. Is it so hard to ask for a tree? I just wish I had someone to be a kid with, but I'm stuck with two parents who are already worn out from raising three other kids. As far as they're concerned, they've already done their job. I'm just the last, forgotten kid. I think I was kind of an accident, anyways. They call me a "miracle" but we all know what that means.

And it's weird, because I think my dad wants me to get healthier, but he's got no tact. I mean, he doesn't say it plain out, but I can tell what he's thinking. My oldest sister is just perfect, she's athletic and pretty and funny. He's used to kids like that. And he doesn't know what to do with me. I love him because he wants me to get healthier, but his plan isn't working out. Somehow my mom, who makes our food, hasn't caught on, even though it's obvious. And I want her to catch on, because I really do want to be healthy. I want to run. I want to be a kid. But I've got no one to be a kid with.

Okay, that was a bit confusing. It's just, I want to stop lazing around, but I have no one to play with, to race with. Honestly, I want to move. I mean, I love where we live, but I want to move somewhere with big old trees in our backyard, perfect for climbing. I would miss our friends here, but there is nothing to do. I love sports, but I'm not good at any, so joining any sports teams just make me feel like I'm a burden. I just wish I wasn't the last kid. My mom had me when she was thirty-six.

Sorry, I'm ranting. I feel like such a brat. I just want to be a normal kid, sometimes. I actually like sports and exercise and stuff. heck, I like vegetables. But my parents are too tired from all of their other kids.

pluzzle 01-20-2014 04:47 PM

Ayyyy don't worry. My tip would be to run every morning before school, or even walk, and make sure you do it everyday so you don't slip into old habits!

Your dad and I have something in common. I once said at netball (we used to get player of the week awards) when my best friend got the award "Yay! But you only got it because you're the only one left!" *shivers*

As for your parents thinking they've done their job, sit them them down and explain that you feel like you haven't had a childhood. Maybe they could do something. Bring out the waterworks (or if there's a disorder you have, which I'm in no way saying you do, the card....) if needed P:

You sound like a really great kid. Do you have any parks near by? I don't know how old you are, but I'm pretty sure everyone loves parks. Go for a picnic (healthy) maybe and I'm sure there will be trees to climb!

You're not a brat. Everyone needs a childhood, even if not all of us get a great one.

pluzzle 01-20-2014 04:48 PM

I'm pretty happy, I sent some of those valentines cards to my friends (one of them was Troy from HSM and it says "Do I like you? you can bet on it", one of them says "you are the macaroni to my cheese" and the third one says "roses are red violets are blue, I probably do not want to set fire to you" with a pic of Adele)

EmmaR 01-20-2014 05:34 PM

I read Crush by Richard Siken and I just...

ARandomWriter 01-20-2014 05:49 PM

I hate my home. My brother is out 90% of the time , every single thing my mother says and does frustrates me so much and my dad lives half a country away.
I never feel like I have anyone to tell my problems to, because my dad is too easy going to take anything seriously and my mum always tries to think of stupid solutions and then goes to work and tells all her friends everything.
I dont even know where this is going. I guess i just really hate livimg in my home. The only solution is to go live with my dad who I love spending time with but I usually only see him in holidays and other times he is suer busy with work and I would have to leave all my friends behind, and possibly ruin my education due to here and there having different systems.
That is all really. Well no it isnt but Im not letting anything else out today. Sorry for typos im on an ipod.

pluzzle 01-20-2014 06:27 PM

First off, I'm Australian too!
Secondly, that sucks. Is there any aunts, uncles, even grandparents who live near you that you could go to? Even friends parents if you're close enough.

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