Originally Posted by Athenabrain1 (Post 552260)

Okay. I think I'm better now, after a break from KP and a day on the quiet place project thing.
A completed art project also cheered me up.
I feel more positive towards life.
I need to email everything I felt towards the only two people I trust.
They might help me.
But yesterday night wasn't the best.
One of the worst times of my life.
My parents yelled at me for trying to write in my journal (which I was using to vent) and just started bringing up everything else they felt like they needed to point out about me and comparing me to my "better" friends.
I suddenly felt like I couldn't love them.
I felt really bad for taking everything out on my family and being in such a bad mood these days.
But they kept trying to control my life.
"You can't be friends with S anymore. She's too quiet and shy. Not a good example."
"You need to be friends with A. She's outgoing." But she isn't.

Originally Posted by Elizabeth (Post 552255)

Okay, I'm entering your conversation simply because the whole holiday thing is something I've been wondering about for a while. My family has always celebrated the holidays because it's just what my parents grew up with and it's just what lots of people do. We never thought anything might be wrong. But now, we've been wondering and thinking a lot about it and don't know exactly what to think.
I have a friend who has very strong opinions. Her family doesn't celebrate Christmas and Easter, at least, not in the usual way. They celebrate Passover. I got into a conversation with her about it with her one day. Our choir teacher mentioned something about coming to her church on Easter because they had a special program going on or something. My friend had a bit of a disgusted look on her face and commented that she wouldn't go. I asked her if she was going to go to her church. I believe she said that she wasn't even going to go to her church. I found that really strange, because I didn't think her family would skip Easter, which is an important holiday for Christians, you know, celebrating Jesus's resurrection. Well, she explained, in not the most tactful way, that it was a pagan holiday. I told her that my family wasn't worshipping some pagan goddess. She kinda just looked at me like, "well, you're obviously very confused." It bugged me because she was practically accusing me of worshipping a pagan goddess.
Well, I went home and my mom and I began researching the matter more. We found articles about all the ways Easter is connected with pagan worship. It disturbed me, and I'm still thinking about it. I mean, I pointed out to my mom that a lot of days could have pagan meanings, but that didn't mean we shouldn't celebrate stuff on them. However, it's not a very strong argument. I just don't know what to think. These are things we've always done, always celebrated. It's hard to start thinking and doing differently now. I would ask my friend more about it, but um, I think she'd be hard to talk to about it.
I'm sorry for cutting into your conversation, but this is something that has bugged me for a while and I thought you might be able to tell me more or something.

Originally Posted by Elizabeth (Post 552255)

Okay, I'm entering your conversation simply because the whole holiday thing is something I've been wondering about for a while. My family has always celebrated the holidays because it's just what my parents grew up with and it's just what lots of people do. We never thought anything might be wrong. But now, we've been wondering and thinking a lot about it and don't know exactly what to think.
I have a friend who has very strong opinions. Her family doesn't celebrate Christmas and Easter, at least, not in the usual way. They celebrate Passover. I got into a conversation with her about it with her one day. Our choir teacher mentioned something about coming to her church on Easter because they had a special program going on or something. My friend had a bit of a disgusted look on her face and commented that she wouldn't go. I asked her if she was going to go to her church. I believe she said that she wasn't even going to go to her church. I found that really strange, because I didn't think her family would skip Easter, which is an important holiday for Christians, you know, celebrating Jesus's resurrection. Well, she explained, in not the most tactful way, that it was a pagan holiday. I told her that my family wasn't worshipping some pagan goddess. She kinda just looked at me like, "well, you're obviously very confused." It bugged me because she was practically accusing me of worshipping a pagan goddess.
Well, I went home and my mom and I began researching the matter more. We found articles about all the ways Easter is connected with pagan worship. It disturbed me, and I'm still thinking about it. I mean, I pointed out to my mom that a lot of days could have pagan meanings, but that didn't mean we shouldn't celebrate stuff on them. However, it's not a very strong argument. I just don't know what to think. These are things we've always done, always celebrated. It's hard to start thinking and doing differently now. I would ask my friend more about it, but um, I think she'd be hard to talk to about it.
I'm sorry for cutting into your conversation, but this is something that has bugged me for a while and I thought you might be able to tell me more or something.

Originally Posted by Athenabrain1 (Post 552260)

Okay. I think I'm better now, after a break from KP and a day on the quiet place project thing.
A completed art project also cheered me up.
I feel more positive towards life.
I need to email everything I felt towards the only two people I trust.
They might help me.
But yesterday night wasn't the best.
One of the worst times of my life.
My parents yelled at me for trying to write in my journal (which I was using to vent) and just started bringing up everything else they felt like they needed to point out about me and comparing me to my "better" friends.
I suddenly felt like I couldn't love them.
I felt really bad for taking everything out on my family and being in such a bad mood these days.
But they kept trying to control my life.
"You can't be friends with S anymore. She's too quiet and shy. Not a good example."
"You need to be friends with A. She's outgoing." But she isn't.

Originally Posted by pluzzle (Post 552259)

when u try to make someone feel better about their height and i give myself as an example cause i short and they feel sad about being short and i make it worse.......... sobbbb

Originally Posted by Ember (Post 552266)

(Just going to slip in my input, if you don't mind. I don't mean to undermine anyone else's beliefs, this is purely just my thoughts.)

There are certainly many pagan origins to many holidays. However, I don't think it's wrong to celebrate holidays. I celebrate Christmas because i am worshipping Christ and his birth. I celebrate Easter because I am worshipping Christ and the Atonement. Just because they may have disturbing pagan backgrounds doesn't mean that that is what the holiday is about. I'm not very good with words, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that all that matters is the spirit of the holiday, and the reason you celebrate it. As in most things, it's the thought that counts. Cliche, yes. But I believe that Christmas is good for lack of a better word because it is a day to remember and worship the Savior. And it certainly helps me to grow closer to Christ as I remember him.

I wish I could explain it a bit better but hopefully I somewhat portrayed my opinion on the subject.

Originally Posted by blossom (Post 552267)

That's alright! Here is a good page about the celebration of Christmas: http://www.gotquestions.org/Christian-Christmas.html .



It'll get better. Do you think you could bring this up to them and explain? I'm glad to hear you're feeling better!



Aw :| I think the height insecurity goes away with time. Being short, medium, or tall each have their own advantages though!

Just keep swimming everyone! <3 .

Originally Posted by blossom (Post 552267)

That's alright! Here is a good page about the celebration of Christmas: http://www.gotquestions.org/Christian-Christmas.html .



It'll get better. Do you think you could bring this up to them and explain? I'm glad to hear you're feeling better!



Aw :| I think the height insecurity goes away with time. Being short, medium, or tall each have their own advantages though!

Just keep swimming everyone! <3 .

Originally Posted by pluzzle (Post 552381)

Originally Posted by pluzzle (Post 552259)

when u try to make someone feel better about their height and i give myself as an example cause i short and they feel sad about being short and i make it worse.......... sobbbb

Originally Posted by pluzzle (Post 552381)