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MaryElizabeth 02-06-2013 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by cheezemziez (Post 419228)
Well, this is not a vent because I am feeling absolutely fine emotionally, but it's a kind of observation again, but this one could quite possibly be upsetting. I guess I'll put it in white in case anyone doesn't want to read it. I am so going to regret posting this. I don't mean to offend or disrespect anyone.

It kind of seems like society is trying to make us unhappy and misfortunate. There's this idea that richer, luckier, happier people are not as good people as the poor, unhappy and unlucky.
In primary school, my headteacher gave an assemblies about praying, and the Bible, and God. She told us a story about two men who were praying in the same church. One man was very fortunate. He was wealthy, and had a loving family, and he was thanking God for his kindness and generosity. The second man was an ex-criminal of some kind, and he was apologising to God, and praying for forgiveness and asking for a better life. Our headteacher told us that God favoured the second man over the first, despite telling us less than a week ago that God loved everyone equally. But I digress. She told us that God preferred him because he was unhappy, but still prayed.
People using guilt trips heavily imply that less fortunate people are better and more morally right. While this is often true, because of the emotional and physical strength and endurance needed to go through the suffering, they are not better people because they are less fortunate. People react to situations differently. There are people who would be amazing and strong through hard times, and there are people who would get angry and hateful and horrible if presented with the exact same situation. In the same way, lucky people can be positive and help others, or mock the less fortunate and abuse their supposed superiority.
When people die, especially in tragic circumstances such as random murders and suicide, everyone is suddenly praising them, and saying that they were wonderful, and the best. Even the kids who were bullied by everyone, and thought of as useless and stupid, thus forcing them into taking their own lives, are remembered by the very people who abused them as brilliant and whatnot. Why couldn't you have told them that when it could have saved them? Maybe because they feel guilty for being alive, maybe they feel sorry for the one who died, maybe they're showing respect to the dead, or maybe they do actually think that in dying, the deceased has risen above and beyond the living, that they are automatically better than everyone else. It's almost as if they think that dying in tragedy makes you a better person.
But it doesn't. You are still the same person as you were when you were alive. So to everyone reading this: You are wonderful, brilliant, intelligent, amazing, and so many other things, and you don't need to suffer for people to think that. No-one who is sentient is faultless. But no-one deserves suffering, and feeling sorry for them won't help them either.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who's thought that. I hate it when people gush over "how much so-and-so loved to laugh" and "how so-and-so was brilliant", or when people say "you shouldn't speak of the dead that way". Respect for the dead means not disgracing them, not sympathizing for them when they're gone just because it makes you feel better. So you can't say that whoever was strange when they're dead but you didn't give two shits about them when they were walking on this earth? I just wish people would understand that.

DragonRider 02-06-2013 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by cheezemziez (Post 419368)
Geary, if I die before you, then I entrust to you the duty of making sure that no-one lies at my funeral. (also, try not to let anyone piss on the coffin. Or let giant vultures blow the room up in an attempt to gain control of the TARDIS)

*salutes* Done. *grabs massive machine gun* They'll have to get through me first.
Same goes for me too, eh?

cheezemziez 02-06-2013 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by DragonRider (Post 419382)
*salutes* Done. *grabs massive machine gun* They'll have to get through me first.
Same goes for me too, eh?

Ob...viously.

HeatherB 02-06-2013 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by MaryElizabeth (Post 419375)
I'm glad I'm not the only one who's thought that. I hate it when people gush over "how much so-and-so loved to laugh" and "how so-and-so was brilliant", or when people say "you shouldn't speak of the dead that way". Respect for the dead means not disgracing them, not sympathizing for them when they're gone just because it makes you feel better. So you can't say that whoever was strange when they're dead but you didn't give two shits about them when they were walking on this earth? I just wish people would understand that.

If someone genuinely thought that someone was brilliant or whatever, they should tell them while they're alive and around to hear it for f---'s sake. Not just say it to sound not uncaring at a funeral.

MaryElizabeth 02-06-2013 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by HeatherB (Post 419400)
If someone genuinely thought that someone was brilliant or whatever, they should tell them while they're alive and around to hear it for f---'s sake. Not just say it to sound not uncaring at a funeral.

Precisely.

TheAshWolf 02-06-2013 08:08 PM

I hate to ruin the seriousness, but...
 
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Originally Posted by MaryElizabeth (Post 419423)
Precisely.

http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y12.../precisely.gif

(I'm so sorry, that's the first thing that popped into my head when I read your response. :o IGNORE ME!)

LaurenM 02-06-2013 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Owen-L (Post 419246)
People the same age as me smoking?

The world is doomed.

In Hong Kong, 11-13 is the age when people are the easiest to fall into xD trap of drugs. I once watched a programme and a girl took drugs when she was ten.

BriannaH 02-06-2013 10:10 PM

Lonely
 
I don't have any real-life friends my age to hang out with. I guess being homeschooled is a part of it, but I always thought that at least some people would try to keep in touch. The only person I know from public school hasn't spoken to me since New Year's Day. I'm so alone and I don't like it! :(

Sandy 02-06-2013 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by TheAshWolf (Post 419450)
http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y12.../precisely.gif

(I'm so sorry, that's the first thing that popped into my head when I read your response. :o IGNORE ME!)

(*claps*) :D

TheAshWolf 02-06-2013 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by soph-soph27 (Post 419365)

O.O THAT'S THE CUTEST PHOTOGRAPHY GOOF EVER! :'D *hugs happy peacock dog*

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Originally Posted by Sandy (Post 419555)
(*claps*) :D

*is in the corner of the room, now, quietly singing the song that immediately follows that moment*
So prepare for the coup of the century,
Be prepared for the murkiest scam.
Meticulous planning,
Tenacity spanning,
Decades of denial,
Is simply why I'll
Be king undisputed,
Respected, saluted,
And seen for the wonder I am!
Yes, my teeth and ambitions are bared,
Be prepaaaared!


*evil smile* >:^D

*is clearly insane*

*also consumed by nostalgia*


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