cheezemziez |
07-09-2012 03:20 PM |
Ack. Okay. Here goes. *takes deep breath*
My mum yelled at me twice today because she told me that my tone of voice was, basically, the Chinese equivalent of 'insolent'. This has happened before, when I raised my voice, or was rude or disrespectful. But not this time. My voice was completely calm and level, I didn't use slang, I have never sworn at either of my parents, and I was respectful. But my mum tells me that I shouldn't talk to her in the tone of voice. When I ask her, she refuses to tell me what's wrong with it, and tells me to stop again. Being the nice, forgiving person that I am (not), I decided to let it go, and go upstairs (this was a few hours ago). When my dad gets home, I go down stairs for dinner. I ask my family if I have permission to quit piano. My dad and my brother say nothing. My mum launches into this rant about how I am a 'quitter', and that I shouldn't quit because I basically failed my latest exam (I sprained my arm quite badly and had it in a sling for a bit right up until the day of the exam, then I got 108 in the results), and that if I quit now then only the last result I got counts (I don't even know what this is for). I listen to this calmly, then politely ask if they are any other reasons why I shouldn't quit, such as if learning piano is actually good for me in real life (I didn't say this bit out loud). She gets all weird, and tells me to finish my dinner before we talked, and that I should change my tone of voice. I once again asked her what was wrong with it, and how I was supposed to change it, and she slams her chopsticks onto the table and swears. Loudly. She walks off, saying that I should stop talking about the piano thing. hen she returns, I tell her that I'm not going to eat, so could we discuss the tone of voice thing? She agrees, then walks off. I ask if she's going to come back, she says no, you wanted to talk, you come to me. I explain to her calmly and politely that she is the one with the problem with my tone of voice, and that I don't actually care that she finds it annoying etc., and that I only wanted to discuss it for er sake. She swears again, then storms off.
I feel like she's the stroppy child in the situation, seeing as she raised her voice at least 7 times, while I was calm and polite.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do, because she started swearing every time I talk now, even if it's not to her.
Help?
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