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cloudwriter 10-23-2013 09:15 PM

It's happening again...

The same girl who started to steal my best friend three years ago is trying to steal another friend now. See, I'm taking French this year. Let's call one of my friends Ruby and the friend-stealer Monique.

Ruby and I planned our schedules so we would have the max. amount of classes possible together (although since I'm taking 3 honors classes, and she's not, it's only a few classes) However, in French class, we didn't get to pick where we sit.

In the first couple months, Ruby sat by this boy...let's call him Xavier. Then we switched seats, and now Ruby is sitting by Monique.

The other day, for a group thing, we got to pick groups for a game/competition thing. I sat with Ruby, and then Xavier and Monique sat down with us. Ruby barely said anything to me, and instead started talking to Xavier and Monique. She kept calling them her "French buddies" and leaving me out-- talk about how awkward I felt..

Anyways, today, for a speaking activity, we had to ask any person in the room 5 questions in French, and they had to answer appropriately in French. I immediately looked over at Ruby, and mouthed "partners?"

...and she said no, and pointed back to Monique.

To make matters worse, I had no partner. Joy. Finally the teacher had to pair me with the last person left who didn't have a partner.

Monique is pissing me off. She needs to BACK OFF and stop stealing my f'ing friends.

(I apologize for the language. I'm a teensy bit angry, if you couldn't tell.)

evasong 10-24-2013 05:38 AM

So... we are doing a Secret Santa thing but it's like Secret Friend, which is like you do nice things for that person, leave stuff on their desk like a note or lollies. Anyway, I got a girl I'm really good friends with. The first and only thing she said to me today was that she had a really lazy Secret Santa who wasn't doing it right, when I was about to put something on her desk. I almost kept it for myself.

lvhamsters 10-24-2013 10:11 AM

I found my uncle's fb. That might sound creepy. Ugh. He commented on my cousin's picture e.o Anyways, long story short, I'm not allowed to see him anymore. He was my favorite uncle. He changed after going to Iraq, having ptsd, and almost strangled my aunt. Needless to say, they got divorced.
But I was scrolling down and I saw a picture of my dad and him in their military uniforms. I can't believe how much I miss him. I haven't seen him for 7 years. I spent some time watching some of the videos my family has when me and my brother were babies, before he went to Iraq. My uncle was there and holding us and blehhh. Just broke down crying. Some people may say, oh, he was just an uncle, no biggie. He was like my second dad. I spent most of my childhood with him and the rest of that family. I spent every day terrified he was going to die in Iraq and when he came home I wasn't even able to see him anymore.
That ends my speech. *wanders off*

AlgebraAddict 10-24-2013 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by cloudwriter (Post 500643)
It's happening again...

The same girl who started to steal my best friend three years ago is trying to steal another friend now. See, I'm taking French this year. Let's call one of my friends Ruby and the friend-stealer Monique.

Ruby and I planned our schedules so we would have the max. amount of classes possible together (although since I'm taking 3 honors classes, and she's not, it's only a few classes) However, in French class, we didn't get to pick where we sit.

In the first couple months, Ruby sat by this boy...let's call him Xavier. Then we switched seats, and now Ruby is sitting by Monique.

The other day, for a group thing, we got to pick groups for a game/competition thing. I sat with Ruby, and then Xavier and Monique sat down with us. Ruby barely said anything to me, and instead started talking to Xavier and Monique. She kept calling them her "French buddies" and leaving me out-- talk about how awkward I felt..

Anyways, today, for a speaking activity, we had to ask any person in the room 5 questions in French, and they had to answer appropriately in French. I immediately looked over at Ruby, and mouthed "partners?"

...and she said no, and pointed back to Monique.

To make matters worse, I had no partner. Joy. Finally the teacher had to pair me with the last person left who didn't have a partner.

Monique is pissing me off. She needs to BACK OFF and stop stealing my f'ing friends.

(I apologize for the language. I'm a teensy bit angry, if you couldn't tell.)

Oh my goodness, I know exactly what you mean.

Monique might be kind of malicious, but a lot of the time, especially if you've known Ruby for a while, what she's doing is trying to be friends with both of you. However, she feels that she needs to pay more attention to Monique because Monique might ditch her if she's ignored, whereas she'll keep you no matter what. I'm not sure if it makes sense, but that's what my best friend continuously does to me. Once she explained it and apologized, but she's doing it again. :| The thing is to just find one other person you can be with in each class that you guys share with Monique. I started hanging out with a boy that I really didn't notice until now, although it turns out he's an awesome guy.

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Originally Posted by lvhamsters (Post 500739)
I found my uncle's fb. That might sound creepy. Ugh. He commented on my cousin's picture e.o Anyways, long story short, I'm not allowed to see him anymore. He was my favorite uncle. He changed after going to Iraq, having ptsd, and almost strangled my aunt. Needless to say, they got divorced.
But I was scrolling down and I saw a picture of my dad and him in their military uniforms. I can't believe how much I miss him. I haven't seen him for 7 years. I spent some time watching some of the videos my family has when me and my brother were babies, before he went to Iraq. My uncle was there and holding us and blehhh. Just broke down crying. Some people may say, oh, he was just an uncle, no biggie. He was like my second dad. I spent most of my childhood with him and the rest of that family. I spent every day terrified he was going to die in Iraq and when he came home I wasn't even able to see him anymore.
That ends my speech. *wanders off*


wait you don't have to tell me but why can't you see him anymore

lvhamsters 10-24-2013 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by AlgebraAddict (Post 500773)
Oh my goodness, I know exactly what you mean.

Monique might be kind of malicious, but a lot of the time, especially if you've known Ruby for a while, what she's doing is trying to be friends with both of you. However, she feels that she needs to pay more attention to Monique because Monique might ditch her if she's ignored, whereas she'll keep you no matter what. I'm not sure if it makes sense, but that's what my best friend continuously does to me. Once she explained it and apologized, but she's doing it again. :| The thing is to just find one other person you can be with in each class that you guys share with Monique. I started hanging out with a boy that I really didn't notice until now, although it turns out he's an awesome guy.




wait you don't have to tell me but why can't you see him anymore

Because of what he did to my aunt .-.

HeatherB 10-24-2013 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by pluzzle (Post 500629)
what happened?

.... start rant.
if you've ever been on tumblr you've probably noticed that people get really overemotional a lot. for feelings like excitement and happiness, that's perfectly fine. for feelings like sadness and the like, well, everyone needs to let it out once and a while.
but for feelings like anger, it's not okay. people have the tendency to get really overly worked up about things-- and not one specific thing, no, ALL the things-- and take it to the point where if someone says something that can be taken in the least little offensive way, the anons come in and crowd their blog/ask with horrible hatemail. for a place that's supposed to be a "safe environment" where "everyone is friendly," tumblr sure is fucked up. people have deleted their blogs, it's gotten to that point. and still we make posts enforcing the anti-bully thing. god, people are such hypocrites. they think that just because they're anonymous they can say anything to no effect and it pisses me the fuck off. i haven't experienced hate (yet, considering one of my ships) but i've seen so much of it on my dash and i am so. fucking. sick. of. it. if you have an opinion, fine. just don't state it in such a way that it's really mean to the opposite or a differing opinion. and if it is stated that way, then people should point it out gently, not by yelling at them via askbox. and if it isn't and you disagree with the opinion, well, depending on its severity, you could either blacklist the opinion point, or unfollow the person. but the hate is NOT NECESSARY.
there's probably so much more i could add to this, but i think you get the point. people are such fragile, bitter assholes. /end rant

Puckbrina159 10-24-2013 09:11 PM

Guys, I'm kind of scared.
There's a teacher that's a long term sub for my world cultures teacher, and no one really likes her. Yesterday she got in trouble for apparently swearing in front of a 7th grade class, and I don't know if she'll be fired for that or not. I really dislike her, but I was curious so I looked to see if she had a Facebook. She did, and I was looking at some of her stuff and it looks like she's had a really hard and complicated life. Her current relationship status is "in a complicated relationship", she has children, she talked of a husband, a fiance, and a boyfriend at some point on her profile, and it says she was born in 1932. That would make her 81. She does not look old enough to be 81. I've heard some crazy stories about her from kids at school.
I'm kind of scared that I'm going to find her in the paper some day.

TheAshWolf 10-26-2013 01:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Puckbrina159 (Post 500819)
Guys, I'm kind of scared.
There's a teacher that's a long term sub for my world cultures teacher, and no one really likes her. Yesterday she got in trouble for apparently swearing in front of a 7th grade class, and I don't know if she'll be fired for that or not. I really dislike her, but I was curious so I looked to see if she had a Facebook. She did, and I was looking at some of her stuff and it looks like she's had a really hard and complicated life. Her current relationship status is "in a complicated relationship", she has children, she talked of a husband, a fiance, and a boyfriend at some point on her profile, and it says she was born in 1932. That would make her 81. She does not look old enough to be 81. I've heard some crazy stories about her from kids at school.
I'm kind of scared that I'm going to find her in the paper some day.

I can understand why you're concerned for her. If she has a tough life, then, well, anyone who has to deal with that must be under a lot of stress, and no one should have to deal with that.

But, why does it matter if she put up a fake age online? A lot of people do that just as a joke, or because they don't want to put that kind of sensitive information online.

What have you heard about her? Rumors and stories are just that, though--most of it is probably just kids making up stuff, regardless of what they're saying. I wouldn't take any of it seriously if I were you.

In the paper? What do you mean? O_o

lvhamsters 10-26-2013 01:42 AM

This is slightly emotional I guess e.o
So. Um. This has been a weird day. Basically it had to do with a playground, my friend, a freaking crazy mother, the police, and yeah, some tears. Oh, and also the first time I've screamed liar at an adult I'd only seen a couple times e.o
Ugh.

TheAshWolf 10-26-2013 02:03 AM

rant...
 
So, I think it's pretty well known that the media is a lie when it comes to what beauty is and what's physically possible for women to look like.

But, seriously, now...why aren't we thinking about how the media effects MEN, too? I'm all for women's rights and whatnot, but, hey, there's a bunch of things that effect men negatively that no one wants to talk about.

According to the same magazines that show women with poreless, flawless skin and ridiculously slim waistlines ALSO show very tall men with absolutely perfect hair, lots of muscles (specifically abs, biceps/triceps), and either with a perfect tan or at just the right shade of pale (depending on the race of the guy in the picture). Let me ask you something: how many tall, super-muscular, perfectly tanned men with awesome hair do you see? How many of these guys are also always surrounded by women and are popular and also somehow have the "perfect" and most current sense of fashion? Also, WHY DO ALL THESE GUYS SUPPOSEDLY HAVE TO SMELL? Seriously. I guarantee you, if a lady's gonna like you, it's NOT gonna be because of your shampoo or deodorant or aftershave smell. In fact, something tells me you're gonna deter a lot more women than you'll attract if you pick the wrong super-expensive scent.

So, basically, we're all in the exact same boat. The media victimizes all of us, not just young girls and women. And that goes for movies and TV, too, not just ads and magazines and all that. Movie stars and fictional characters don't just influence girls in a negative way--have you SEEN Iron Man, Thor, Brad Pitt, Justin Timberlake, etc.? All these "heroes" who look great and are good at making things turn out right in the end while also being awesome and attracting lots of girls...it's just as emotionally damaging to teenage boys and men in general as it is to teenage girls and women in general. This vain sense of how someone looks that somehow correlates to their worth as a person is absolutely wrong, and gets overlooked all too often. Both boys AND girls are now telling themselves, "I'm ugly because my skin is ___, and because my hair is ___, and because I weigh ___," thanks to the media.

So, guys? A girl is beautiful no matter how skinny she is, and the same goes for you. I know this problem is a little more subtle than it is with women, but, it's still there. Just because you don't have a six pack doesn't mean you're not handsome and awesome and worth something.




tl;dr: THE MEDIA IS A LIE. Their definition of beauty--for women AND men--is incorrect and physically impossible. This is not just a problem for girls, it's also a problem for guys, too. So try to ignore the media's ideas the best you can and love the way you look regardless of your gender because you are VERY beautiful/handsome. :>


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