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Athenabrain1 08-08-2014 05:08 PM

Okay. I think I'm better now, after a break from KP and a day on the quiet place project thing.
A completed art project also cheered me up.
I feel more positive towards life.
I need to email everything I felt towards the only two people I trust.
They might help me.
But yesterday night wasn't the best.
One of the worst times of my life.
My parents yelled at me for trying to write in my journal (which I was using to vent) and just started bringing up everything else they felt like they needed to point out about me and comparing me to my "better" friends.
I suddenly felt like I couldn't love them.
I felt really bad for taking everything out on my family and being in such a bad mood these days.
But they kept trying to control my life.
"You can't be friends with S anymore. She's too quiet and shy. Not a good example."
"You need to be friends with A. She's outgoing." But she isn't.

pluzzle 08-08-2014 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Athenabrain1 (Post 552260)
Okay. I think I'm better now, after a break from KP and a day on the quiet place project thing.
A completed art project also cheered me up.
I feel more positive towards life.
I need to email everything I felt towards the only two people I trust.
They might help me.
But yesterday night wasn't the best.
One of the worst times of my life.
My parents yelled at me for trying to write in my journal (which I was using to vent) and just started bringing up everything else they felt like they needed to point out about me and comparing me to my "better" friends.
I suddenly felt like I couldn't love them.
I felt really bad for taking everything out on my family and being in such a bad mood these days.
But they kept trying to control my life.
"You can't be friends with S anymore. She's too quiet and shy. Not a good example."
"You need to be friends with A. She's outgoing." But she isn't.

hey i know that we're not particularly close but you can always email me through my contact tab, yeah? (:

i know that feel bro. im glad you're feeling more positive though!!

Ember 08-08-2014 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Elizabeth (Post 552255)
Okay, I'm entering your conversation simply because the whole holiday thing is something I've been wondering about for a while. My family has always celebrated the holidays because it's just what my parents grew up with and it's just what lots of people do. We never thought anything might be wrong. But now, we've been wondering and thinking a lot about it and don't know exactly what to think.
I have a friend who has very strong opinions. Her family doesn't celebrate Christmas and Easter, at least, not in the usual way. They celebrate Passover. I got into a conversation with her about it with her one day. Our choir teacher mentioned something about coming to her church on Easter because they had a special program going on or something. My friend had a bit of a disgusted look on her face and commented that she wouldn't go. I asked her if she was going to go to her church. I believe she said that she wasn't even going to go to her church. I found that really strange, because I didn't think her family would skip Easter, which is an important holiday for Christians, you know, celebrating Jesus's resurrection. Well, she explained, in not the most tactful way, that it was a pagan holiday. I told her that my family wasn't worshipping some pagan goddess. She kinda just looked at me like, "well, you're obviously very confused." It bugged me because she was practically accusing me of worshipping a pagan goddess.
Well, I went home and my mom and I began researching the matter more. We found articles about all the ways Easter is connected with pagan worship. It disturbed me, and I'm still thinking about it. I mean, I pointed out to my mom that a lot of days could have pagan meanings, but that didn't mean we shouldn't celebrate stuff on them. However, it's not a very strong argument. I just don't know what to think. These are things we've always done, always celebrated. It's hard to start thinking and doing differently now. I would ask my friend more about it, but um, I think she'd be hard to talk to about it.
I'm sorry for cutting into your conversation, but this is something that has bugged me for a while and I thought you might be able to tell me more or something.

(Just going to slip in my input, if you don't mind. I don't mean to undermine anyone else's beliefs, this is purely just my thoughts.)

There are certainly many pagan origins to many holidays. However, I don't think it's wrong to celebrate holidays. I celebrate Christmas because i am worshipping Christ and his birth. I celebrate Easter because I am worshipping Christ and the Atonement. Just because they may have disturbing pagan backgrounds doesn't mean that that is what the holiday is about. I'm not very good with words, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that all that matters is the spirit of the holiday, and the reason you celebrate it. As in most things, it's the thought that counts. Cliche, yes. But I believe that Christmas is good for lack of a better word because it is a day to remember and worship the Savior. And it certainly helps me to grow closer to Christ as I remember him.

I wish I could explain it a bit better but hopefully I somewhat portrayed my opinion on the subject.

blossom 08-08-2014 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Elizabeth (Post 552255)
Okay, I'm entering your conversation simply because the whole holiday thing is something I've been wondering about for a while. My family has always celebrated the holidays because it's just what my parents grew up with and it's just what lots of people do. We never thought anything might be wrong. But now, we've been wondering and thinking a lot about it and don't know exactly what to think.
I have a friend who has very strong opinions. Her family doesn't celebrate Christmas and Easter, at least, not in the usual way. They celebrate Passover. I got into a conversation with her about it with her one day. Our choir teacher mentioned something about coming to her church on Easter because they had a special program going on or something. My friend had a bit of a disgusted look on her face and commented that she wouldn't go. I asked her if she was going to go to her church. I believe she said that she wasn't even going to go to her church. I found that really strange, because I didn't think her family would skip Easter, which is an important holiday for Christians, you know, celebrating Jesus's resurrection. Well, she explained, in not the most tactful way, that it was a pagan holiday. I told her that my family wasn't worshipping some pagan goddess. She kinda just looked at me like, "well, you're obviously very confused." It bugged me because she was practically accusing me of worshipping a pagan goddess.
Well, I went home and my mom and I began researching the matter more. We found articles about all the ways Easter is connected with pagan worship. It disturbed me, and I'm still thinking about it. I mean, I pointed out to my mom that a lot of days could have pagan meanings, but that didn't mean we shouldn't celebrate stuff on them. However, it's not a very strong argument. I just don't know what to think. These are things we've always done, always celebrated. It's hard to start thinking and doing differently now. I would ask my friend more about it, but um, I think she'd be hard to talk to about it.
I'm sorry for cutting into your conversation, but this is something that has bugged me for a while and I thought you might be able to tell me more or something.

That's alright! Here is a good page about the celebration of Christmas: http://www.gotquestions.org/Christian-Christmas.html .

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Originally Posted by Athenabrain1 (Post 552260)
Okay. I think I'm better now, after a break from KP and a day on the quiet place project thing.
A completed art project also cheered me up.
I feel more positive towards life.
I need to email everything I felt towards the only two people I trust.
They might help me.
But yesterday night wasn't the best.
One of the worst times of my life.
My parents yelled at me for trying to write in my journal (which I was using to vent) and just started bringing up everything else they felt like they needed to point out about me and comparing me to my "better" friends.
I suddenly felt like I couldn't love them.
I felt really bad for taking everything out on my family and being in such a bad mood these days.
But they kept trying to control my life.
"You can't be friends with S anymore. She's too quiet and shy. Not a good example."
"You need to be friends with A. She's outgoing." But she isn't.

It'll get better. Do you think you could bring this up to them and explain? I'm glad to hear you're feeling better!

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Originally Posted by pluzzle (Post 552259)
when u try to make someone feel better about their height and i give myself as an example cause i short and they feel sad about being short and i make it worse.......... sobbbb

Aw :| I think the height insecurity goes away with time. Being short, medium, or tall each have their own advantages though!



Just keep swimming everyone! <3 .

Elizabeth 08-08-2014 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Ember (Post 552266)
(Just going to slip in my input, if you don't mind. I don't mean to undermine anyone else's beliefs, this is purely just my thoughts.)

There are certainly many pagan origins to many holidays. However, I don't think it's wrong to celebrate holidays. I celebrate Christmas because i am worshipping Christ and his birth. I celebrate Easter because I am worshipping Christ and the Atonement. Just because they may have disturbing pagan backgrounds doesn't mean that that is what the holiday is about. I'm not very good with words, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that all that matters is the spirit of the holiday, and the reason you celebrate it. As in most things, it's the thought that counts. Cliche, yes. But I believe that Christmas is good for lack of a better word because it is a day to remember and worship the Savior. And it certainly helps me to grow closer to Christ as I remember him.

I wish I could explain it a bit better but hopefully I somewhat portrayed my opinion on the subject.

Oh, thank you so much! That's what my mom and I were thinking, that even though the day may have a bad background, we aren't celebrating what it used to be, we're worshipping God and Jesus. But the conversation with my friend really got me thinking. I don't believe she would agree that it doesn't matter since we aren't celebrating in the pagan ways, and I don't think I could reason or even talk to her reasonably about it. With her, what I've gotten from her, is that her way is right and everyone else's isn't. Another thing that bothers me is that the ways we celebrate those holidays, such as the tree, even a ham at Easter (according to some article), and supposedly sunrise services, have to do with pagan celebrations. Such as the sunrise services, there's some verses, in Ezekiel maybe, about the people worshipping the sun and that it was an abomination. The article we read pretty much accused people of worshipping the sun when they go to sunrise services. I told my mom that we aren't doing that, we're doing the sunrise service because that was when it was discovered that Jesus rose from the grave. We also discussed how some people find problems in everything if they really try and maybe that was what it was with the sunrise service thingy.

Oh, you explained it really well! Thank you! You believe how we do, but the conversation with my friend has had me a bit bothered for a few months.

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Originally Posted by blossom (Post 552267)
That's alright! Here is a good page about the celebration of Christmas: http://www.gotquestions.org/Christian-Christmas.html .



It'll get better. Do you think you could bring this up to them and explain? I'm glad to hear you're feeling better!



Aw :| I think the height insecurity goes away with time. Being short, medium, or tall each have their own advantages though!

Just keep swimming everyone! <3 .

I'll have to read that! Thanks!

pluzzle 08-08-2014 08:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blossom (Post 552267)
That's alright! Here is a good page about the celebration of Christmas: http://www.gotquestions.org/Christian-Christmas.html .



It'll get better. Do you think you could bring this up to them and explain? I'm glad to hear you're feeling better!



Aw :| I think the height insecurity goes away with time. Being short, medium, or tall each have their own advantages though!

Just keep swimming everyone! <3 .

i hope it does wwwwww like being shorter than i thought i was (159...160cm) is really sad because i am a guy u know. wish i was tall. o well

pluzzle 08-09-2014 08:53 PM

? meh
 
is this it? hey, maybe this is it. i hope it is and i think it is. bye? i dont know.

TheAshWolf 08-09-2014 08:58 PM

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Originally Posted by pluzzle (Post 552381)
is this it? hey, maybe this is it. i hope it is and i think it is. bye? i dont know.

pluzzle, no. O_____O Look, I know you don't really know me and I don't really know you but a LOT of people on here care about you, okay? I know it seems impossible, but, your problems won't last forever!! You CAN ride this out. Things CAN and WILL improve if you can just find enough strength to hold on a little longer. Please, please don't do anything drastic. Don't hurt yourself. You're loved. We ALL love you on here. You have ACTUAL WORTH. I don't know your problems, and I admit I can't do anything directly to make it better for you. But I wish with all of my heart that I could. You don't deserve to feel this terrible. You deserve to be happy. You CAN be happy again. Please, PLEASE, don't say goodbye. Please don't give up. You've lasted this long!!! You DO have the strength to go on just a little longer, I know you do. You're a lot smarter and braver than you give yourself credit for. Please, we love you. We'd miss you. PLEASE. Don't.

TheAshWolf 08-09-2014 09:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by pluzzle (Post 552259)
when u try to make someone feel better about their height and i give myself as an example cause i short and they feel sad about being short and i make it worse.......... sobbbb

Hey, at least you tried to help. That counts for something! You were just trying to be supportive. Besides, height really doesn't matter all that much. Being tall is good for some things but terrible for others, and vice versa for being short.

camikat 08-09-2014 09:08 PM

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Originally Posted by pluzzle (Post 552381)
is this it? hey, maybe this is it. i hope it is and i think it is. bye? i dont know.

clay please don't there are so many people who care and it would be so so awful if you left you're such a lovely and amazing person call a hotline go to the quiet place project please hold on <3


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