your dad is wrong, they're not the same. also squishes or platonic attraction exists. maybe your friend is feeling that. and there's nothing romantic about wanting a guy to join choir, maybe she likes him as a friend or he's a good singer.

i am nothing. i don't matter

hello, frostblaze!

im not asexual, but i AM on the aromantic spectrum! simply put, i dont really experience romantic attraction. but there are people om sexually attracted to! and meeras right, platonic attraction and squishes are a thing. there are tons of friends i have that i would be in a close relationship with except MINUS the romance stuff. i would cuddle and hold hands and watch movies with them but im not at all romantically attracted to them. its kind of confusing at first heh.

You are not nothing. You do matter. I'm sorry you're feeling so down, and I really don't no what to say other than you're so completely wrong about both of those things you've said. I really hope you realize it someday and I hope you feel better :(

I realize that...oh yeah, I've heard of that, and I understand that. Yeah, I get that. But she didn't talk about this "guy" as someone she knew, I believe she was talking about she wants a cute guy in general to join choir. But I'm not sure she even knows that much about asexuality/aromanticness, just like me. We're both confused...

Okay...so there's a difference between wanting to have sex with someone, sexual attraction, and falling in love with them, romantic attraction...is that what you're saying? Yeah, it is a bit confusing, but I'm sure I'll learn ^^'

yup! sexual attraction is wanting to have sex with someone and romantic attraction is falling in (romantic) love with them.

hey guys since y'all are talking about this can I ask what constitutes romantic attraction?? bc I don't understand the concept very well as far as the boundaries between platonic / romantic / sexual attraction. like what is romantic love?? compared to idk like platonic love?

- sincerely a confused nobody

^^^ same tbh this has been a topic ive never really understood and therefore never really tried to think about

everything just got ten times easier
thank you so much <333

so platonic love is when you are absolutely comfortable around somebody and you can do anything with them

romantic love is when you get butterflies in your stomach and they make you want to throw parties whenever they smile at you

sexual attraction is when you find interest in screwing this person.