I AM SO FREAKING MAD. so I'm at reading camp right and we're discussing this short story we read, written in 1892 about this woman who was sort of relieved when she thought her husband had died because now she would be free and you got the sense that one way or another he had been a bit controlling, whether purposely or no. anyway so we're discussing her being happy about it and whether she's insane or not and of course my friends and I are saying that her husband pretty much OWNED her and made all of her decisions and it made some sense that she would be happy if she could be free again. then there's this kid. so, earlier in the week this kid said that they went by she/her/hers and that she was trans, but today, well, so the kid was pretty much one of the only people opposing my friends and I, along with a boy a couple years younger who didn't understand some other parts of the text. the first kid points out that the ones sympathizing with the woman and saying that the husband abused her (which we didn't say) were all girls and the ones saying that she was insane for being relieved that her husband was dead were both boys.

ok, so first of all I'm confused, because this kid said that they were a girl and trans specifically and not like non binary or anything, which of course it totally ok, except now the kid is a boy and he's ridiculing us by saying we're assuming and not taking from the text, which is untrue. at this point I was fuming over this kid, who has decided he's a boy, and he's targeting me because I'm very openly passionate about this topic of oppression in these earlier times.

so discussion is dismissed and the kid is still prodding me, trying to continue our debate. I declare I'm not having this stupid discussion with him because he's an ignorant little butt. (well I didn't say he was an ignorant little butt but I wanted to) so then he starts talking about how feminism contradicts itself, because if you let the woman take the check, you're taking advantage of her, and if you take the check, your oppressing her. my friends and I are scoffing and rolling our eyes and it just kept on bothering me throughout the day because I've never had a conversation like that in real life. I always thought that people like that were just trolls her lived under bridges.

the end.

SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME

How do you show your crush that you want to be more than friends with them?

haha so last night I was supposed to have a sleepover with a friend and then I couldn't find my phone/my mom refused to talk to me about it so when I finally texted her it was late. She hadn't texted anything but I was kinda freaking out and I asked if it was too late and apologized. She told me it was fine, that it wouldn't work out that night but today would be fine. So I apologized again and we made plans to go get soup with another friend today. So today we are all eating soup and the other friend was taking about the sleepover the two of them had last night, about how it was so much fun and they were up really late. The friend I was supposed to have a sleepover with kept trying to change the subject and wouldn't look at me. And the two of them do this kind of thing to me all the time. I was crying last night because I was so scared my friend would hate me but I guess whatever I do doesn't matter to her

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My fish died, fyi. it was so sad. :(:(:(

well all my friends hate me and i'm home alone again :)

come to my house we can cuddle and I'll make you watch downton abbey even though you'll probably get sick of it really fast
also what kind of chips do u like I'm partial to cheddar/sour cream ruffles but idk about u


oh yeah and ur friends proba don't hate you (but if they do, you're too good for them. :cool:)

so idk whats up with my bffl i haven't seen her in over a week cause i was away at camp and she's not responding to my snapchats unless they're 'streaks' and she said no both times i asked if she wanted to do anything and i miss her so much and i don't understand why she's avoiding. i'm getting worried because in the six years we've been best friends she's never ignored me like this and idk what i did wrong. i understand she's interning at school but she could still answer me when i ask why is that so much to ask?

and now i'm home alone all week with nothing to do because she can't do anything even when her internship is over and i'm too awkward to ask any of my other friends and i don't know whats up and i love her so much and she's not answering and god god god i'm freaking out over nothing but what if i lose her and never know why crap crap crap i need help god what do i do?

thank you so much Esther, this was rlly great and helpful <3

So apparently like everyone I know and thought cared about me (except for my best friend, she was probably invited but was busy) is at a party rn that I never heard about and normally I would shrug it off and I wouldn't be offended but idk I've been home for the past week literally bored to tears and I'm just kind of feeling down rn and they're all snapchatting the crap out of it and my crush is there and I haven't seen him all summer and I'm just kind of really sad actually and I'm sorry this is dumb but crap.

hey yeah I know that feel I don't really know how to comfort you about any of this bc the part I know is questioning if the people you can actually stand don't care about you as you care about them not the how to get out of that but idk I hope you feel better or like, whatever.