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Old 05-09-2012, 02:02 AM
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Okay, I can't believe I'm saying this, but....in your case...public school might be good for you. You'll have to avoid the downsides--rude kids, slow people (it's not their fault, but it can be annoying to have to wait all the time), druggies (depending on the school area), gossips, and people who curse every other sentence--but it can be a good experience. Teachers, friends, art/music class, getting feedback on your assignments...it's all really fun while it lasts. And you get to be away from your house for a bit--staying at home too long can give you cabin fever, and that's certainly not healthy. 0_0 From what you've said, you seem to have been dealing with cabin fever for a looooong time.

I've only had, like...two true friends in my entire life that were my age. And the others all abandoned me. -_- So I kind of know how you feel on that subject. I find that it helps to try to stay positive. Start with small things--like, "oh, it's sunny/cloudy outside, yay", and "mmm, I love apples, I'm glad I can eat one," and just work your way up from there to the big things like "I'm glad I have a mom/dad/sibling, he/she's so [insert good quality here]" and whatnot. ^_^

"How do I become, like, more social and less awkward…?"
O_0 I've been working on that for years, my friend. XD You are so not alone on that one. I started out by smiling and saying "have a nice day" to practically everyone I bumped into. Guy at the checkout counter at Fry's? "Have a nice day!" Crossing guard outside of school? "Have a nice day!" Random chick who helps me pick up my library books when I check out too many and trip and scatter them all over the floor? "Thanks, I'm such a clutz. Have a nice day!" ^_^ You'd be surprised how genuinely happy it makes people when you say that. A lot of people in this world feel ignored--and showing the slightest amount of interest makes them feel good. In turn, seeing them happy can give you courage. From there, I just start striking up random little conversations with people. They don't have to mean anything. Sometimes they get into the conversation, sometimes they don't. Just start by commenting on something. "Man, I hate this weather. It's so hot out. Did you know that [insert random SHORT fact about the heat here]." "Did you hear about [insert recent occurrence that was on the news]?" Maybe joke about something. Anything to get them talking. If you feel awkward about it, remind yourself: (1) THIS IS A PROVEN FACT: 99% of people are so concerned about how THEY look and how THEY come across to people, they honestly don't notice how other people look for more than a couple seconds. Then they forget. (2) If the conversation doesn't last long, they won't dwell on what you looked like or what you said. They'll get lost in their own lives and stop thinking about it. It's not that they don't like you--it's like...passing a bunch of trees in a forest. You don't count how many there are and carry that number around with you all day. Your mind simply does not require that info. ANYWAY, after you get past that, just try to branch out a little. :3 Try to befriend people at school who seem to be all by themselves. There are always people at school who just get ignored. It doesn't mean they're crazy or creepy; they just don't fit in. Try to draw them out--ask them what they like, and what they don't like. Rock? Rap? The Legend of Korra? Reading? A certain movie? Ask them about THEM. Like I said, people like it when you show interest in them, since a lot of people feel like no one cares. Ask them if they have any pets, siblings, or hobbies. ^_^ O_O Sorry that was so long....XD

I don't suggest that you do that....o_e Testing your parents by telling them something false can have REALLY BAD results. (Trust me--I've tried stuff like that.)

Don't feel bad for venting two times within a week, Tredom.... <:^J It's healthy to vent. Venting keeps us from exploding/imploding emotionally.

I'm sorry this took me so long to write....x_x I feel terrible about it.
I think for the most part I wouldn't have much trouble with rude people, so long as it's not, like… physical bullying. >_> Unless it was something I already don't like about myself/am afraid of, I think I might just barely notice what they say. And I've heard someone's heard the school is strict, so hopefully druggies won't be a problem…
While it lasts? I confused. >_>
Heck yeah I do. XP Families get really annoying. :P

You're a freaking epik person and friend, even if they didn't realise it or care enough. :3 It's kind of hard to be positive… Like, I can feel myself emotionally shying away from it/sort of ignoring it… It happens with things that should upset me, too. >_> I can manage it about knowing you guys, most of the time, but for other things I just kind of… shift away from the thoughts.

I can't smile when my family is around… they always joke about it. <_< I think I should try that. Yeah, I think I've read that, that most people pay more attention to worrying about how they look… I'll try to remember that.
I think I'd fit in better with the people who don't fit in, than the people that do… *Is afraid that I'll end up a social outcast with no friends*
I love it when I reply to a really long, awesome thing with a few sentences. XP *Head desk* Thanks. ^^

Yeah… I'm too paranoid to try.

Other people have worse problems and don't rant… :^I

Don't feel bad about it at all! You didn't take very long, and it's an awesome reply. And, again, you never had to reply in the first place.
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Old 05-09-2012, 02:36 AM
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I think for the most part I wouldn't have much trouble with rude people, so long as it's not, like… physical bullying. >_> Unless it was something I already don't like about myself/am afraid of, I think I might just barely notice what they say. And I've heard someone's heard the school is strict, so hopefully druggies won't be a problem…
While it lasts? I confused. >_>
Heck yeah I do. XP Families get really annoying. :P

You're a freaking epik person and friend, even if they didn't realise it or care enough. :3 It's kind of hard to be positive… Like, I can feel myself emotionally shying away from it/sort of ignoring it… It happens with things that should upset me, too. >_> I can manage it about knowing you guys, most of the time, but for other things I just kind of… shift away from the thoughts.

I can't smile when my family is around… they always joke about it. <_< I think I should try that. Yeah, I think I've read that, that most people pay more attention to worrying about how they look… I'll try to remember that.
I think I'd fit in better with the people who don't fit in, than the people that do… *Is afraid that I'll end up a social outcast with no friends*
I love it when I reply to a really long, awesome thing with a few sentences. XP *Head desk* Thanks. ^^

Yeah… I'm too paranoid to try.

Other people have worse problems and don't rant… :^I

Don't feel bad about it at all! You didn't take very long, and it's an awesome reply. And, again, you never had to reply in the first place.
While it lasts....I meant that in a sense of changing teachers as the years go by, sorry I didn't explain. *facepalm* Some teachers will give you in-depth praise/help on your reports and tests, and some just give you a grade and move on. Everything in school is temporary to a degree--don't even forget that. Your classmates, your teachers, the classrooms, the assignments...people move, get fired, quit, and you change grades. The trick to surviving school is being able to adapt. ^_^ O_o And I found the show Ned's Declassified School Survival Guide REALLY REALLY helpful, just so you know. You might want to watch it.

I know, being positive it's hard...but once you start, it's an easy habit to keep. Just keep tallying up the good stuff. You don't have to be happy about it--just remind yourself of the good things. :3 Raining outside? It prevents the forests from drying out and starting fires. It keeps the plants alive, which give us oxygen. Rain keeps the dust down. Just keep going on and on until you can't think of anything else good. The trick is distracting your mind from the bad stuff--it doesn't matter if the positive stuff makes your happy, it just keeps the bad stuff out.

O_O Some of the nicest people you'll ever meet are social outcasts. XD I've been the "leader" of three different bands of outcasts. You'd be how surprised how loyal lonely people can be. And if it takes a while for them to adjust to having someone around, don't feel bad. Having a friend might be new to them. They probably feel more self-conscious than you do. BESIDES, you're an overall awesome person, so I'm sure you'll make lots of friends. ^_^ O_o And if anyone picks on you, they're probably just jealous.

Oh, come on, Tredom....<:^J just try it. It doesn't hurt to try. I know you can do it.

O_0 SO? That's their problem, you can't control what they do. Keeping stuff bottled up just makes things worse. <:^J You need to get stuff out into the open.

And yes I did! 0_0 I'm your friend, aren't I? ^_^
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Old 05-09-2012, 03:02 AM
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While it lasts....I meant that in a sense of changing teachers as the years go by, sorry I didn't explain. *facepalm* Some teachers will give you in-depth praise/help on your reports and tests, and some just give you a grade and move on. Everything in school is temporary to a degree--don't even forget that. Your classmates, your teachers, the classrooms, the assignments...people move, get fired, quit, and you change grades. The trick to surviving school is being able to adapt. ^_^ O_o And I found the show Ned's Declassified School Survival Guide REALLY REALLY helpful, just so you know. You might want to watch it.

I know, being positive it's hard...but once you start, it's an easy habit to keep. Just keep tallying up the good stuff. You don't have to be happy about it--just remind yourself of the good things. :3 Raining outside? It prevents the forests from drying out and starting fires. It keeps the plants alive, which give us oxygen. Rain keeps the dust down. Just keep going on and on until you can't think of anything else good. The trick is distracting your mind from the bad stuff--it doesn't matter if the positive stuff makes your happy, it just keeps the bad stuff out.

O_O Some of the nicest people you'll ever meet are social outcasts. XD I've been the "leader" of three different bands of outcasts. You'd be how surprised how loyal lonely people can be. And if it takes a while for them to adjust to having someone around, don't feel bad. Having a friend might be new to them. They probably feel more self-conscious than you do. BESIDES, you're an overall awesome person, so I'm sure you'll make lots of friends. ^_^ O_o And if anyone picks on you, they're probably just jealous.

Oh, come on, Tredom....<:^J just try it. It doesn't hurt to try. I know you can do it.

O_0 SO? That's their problem, you can't control what they do. Keeping stuff bottled up just makes things worse. <:^J You need to get stuff out into the open.

And yes I did! 0_0 I'm your friend, aren't I? ^_^
Ohhhh… Don't worry about it. :P *Hopes for the first kind of teachers* Changes tend to scare me, but I think I adjust at least halfway well… *Makes a mental note to watch Ned's Declassified School Survival Guide*

Okay… Just thinking of the good things instead of trying to make myself feel happy about them sounds easier. :P (I like the rain… XD)

I was thinking something like that, since they'd be less likely to abandon you and stuff… My thoughts aren't the most organised at one in the morning, though. XD Not sure how much I'd be surprised by that, as I think I'm the same. :P They might think I act stupid, or something along those lines…

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I don't suggest that you do that....o_e Testing your parents by telling them something false can have REALLY BAD results. (Trust me--I've tried stuff like that.)
That's what I meant, not the randomly starting conversations thing. XD

*Shrugs* :^/

Yes you did to take a while to reply? Noooo, it was only like a day. :P Yeah. I consider you one of my best friends. :^D
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Old 05-09-2012, 03:22 AM
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Ohhhh… Don't worry about it. :P *Hopes for the first kind of teachers* Changes tend to scare me, but I think I adjust at least halfway well… *Makes a mental note to watch Ned's Declassified School Survival Guide*

Okay… Just thinking of the good things instead of trying to make myself feel happy about them sounds easier. :P (I like the rain… XD)

I was thinking something like that, since they'd be less likely to abandon you and stuff… My thoughts aren't the most organised at one in the morning, though. XD Not sure how much I'd be surprised by that, as I think I'm the same. :P They might think I act stupid, or something along those lines…


That's what I meant, not the randomly starting conversations thing. XD

*Shrugs* :^/

Yes you did to take a while to reply? Noooo, it was only like a day. :P Yeah. I consider you one of my best friends. :^D
You get used to it, trust me. ^_^ Just take things in stride and try not to worry. XD The show is funny yet REALLY helpful.

XD I like the rain, and I knew you liked it, too. I was just giving an example.

O_0 I think they'd be entertained and uplifted at the way you act.

Yes I took a while to reply, and yes I HAD to reply. ^_^ O_O ....Really? D'aw! Thanks...I consider you one of my best friends on here, too. :3
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Old 05-09-2012, 05:44 AM
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I think for the most part I wouldn't have much trouble with rude people, so long as it's not, like… physical bullying. >_> Unless it was something I already don't like about myself/am afraid of, I think I might just barely notice what they say. And I've heard someone's heard the school is strict, so hopefully druggies won't be a problem…
While it lasts? I confused. >_>
Heck yeah I do. XP Families get really annoying. :P

You're a freaking epik person and friend, even if they didn't realise it or care enough. :3 It's kind of hard to be positive… Like, I can feel myself emotionally shying away from it/sort of ignoring it… It happens with things that should upset me, too. >_> I can manage it about knowing you guys, most of the time, but for other things I just kind of… shift away from the thoughts.

I can't smile when my family is around… they always joke about it. <_< I think I should try that. Yeah, I think I've read that, that most people pay more attention to worrying about how they look… I'll try to remember that.
I think I'd fit in better with the people who don't fit in, than the people that do… *Is afraid that I'll end up a social outcast with no friends*
I love it when I reply to a really long, awesome thing with a few sentences. XP *Head desk* Thanks. ^^

Yeah… I'm too paranoid to try.

Other people have worse problems and don't rant… :^I

Don't feel bad about it at all! You didn't take very long, and it's an awesome reply. And, again, you never had to reply in the first place.
I DON'T WANT TO GROW UP D:
God, I can still remember how awkward it was on the first day of school. Some chatty people made friends soon, and I made friends with a girl called Megan who was sitting beside me. From all the friends I once had and still have, I think there was only one whom I asked, "Can I play with you?"
LST, you're awesome. I can't really imagine you as a popular person, so maybe you'll make awesome friends who don't talk about...stuff that interest normal teenagers. By normal teenagers I mean those who belong into the same type who laugh when people say an expletive (Too bad my running training is half full of them...no wonder I only have a friend there). I can't really find a word for those people. By awesome, I mean people like people on KidPub...
I'm not exactly antisocial, but I find it really hard to make friends. I can chat with people normally without getting scared like I did when I was smaller, but not exactly make friends, because lots of people find me hateful.
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Old 05-09-2012, 06:04 PM
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You get used to it, trust me. ^_^ Just take things in stride and try not to worry. XD The show is funny yet REALLY helpful.

XD I like the rain, and I knew you liked it, too. I was just giving an example.

O_0 I think they'd be entertained and uplifted at the way you act.

Yes I took a while to reply, and yes I HAD to reply. ^_^ O_O ....Really? D'aw! Thanks...I consider you one of my best friends on here, too. :3
Not worrying is not one of my abilities. XD I remember the show, a bit… Though I never thought it was seriously meant to help.

I don't think so. Usually I just act either like I had too much coffee, or awkward, or both. >_>

No and no. :P Thanks, too. :3


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I DON'T WANT TO GROW UP D:
God, I can still remember how awkward it was on the first day of school. Some chatty people made friends soon, and I made friends with a girl called Megan who was sitting beside me. From all the friends I once had and still have, I think there was only one whom I asked, "Can I play with you?"
LST, you're awesome. I can't really imagine you as a popular person, so maybe you'll make awesome friends who don't talk about...stuff that interest normal teenagers. By normal teenagers I mean those who belong into the same type who laugh when people say an expletive (Too bad my running training is half full of them...no wonder I only have a friend there). I can't really find a word for those people. By awesome, I mean people like people on KidPub...
I'm not exactly antisocial, but I find it really hard to make friends. I can chat with people normally without getting scared like I did when I was smaller, but not exactly make friends, because lots of people find me hateful.
I WANT TO NOT GROW UP MORE THAN YOU. D: *Gives you duct tape for your inner child, and plays Never Grow Up and Catch Another Butterfly*
I can't either… P: Maybe someone that most people know of, but not popular, and definitely not stereotypical… popular… guy?
That's the kind of people I'd try to make friends with, people who care about more than just their social standing. I don't think I'd care to be 'friends' with them much, otherwise. (I thought you said 'Teenagers', as in the MCR song, at first glance…) Epik (unique) people? ^_^
You don't seem hateful to me. Haters gonna hate awesome people. :3

Confusing mood swings are confusing… 0_o I feel sorta optimisticish about public school at the moment, though I'm sure that will pass within a few hours.
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Old 05-09-2012, 06:44 PM
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At school, I have about seven loose friends. It's not because I'm a total social butterfly or popular kid. It's because half of them are the weird/nerdy kids in the class and the others are just overly chatty and friendly. Of course, I don't exactly hang ou with all of them at once. I'm sort of an outcast in the group sometimes, probably because I have my head in the clouds all the time. I guess it's harder in high school and all, but it isn't all that bad, or difficult. And try to talk to random people.. not extremely random people, but people who seem somewhat out of place or whatever. As far as experience goes, most of them are as confused as you are. Maybe they need a friend too.
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Okay, so what if you worked really REALLY hard on a test and there was one BIG question that you understood perfectly? So it seems. I just took a 9th grade Algebra test (I just turned 13 a little while ago; give me a break) and the biggest question that I answered was just graded WRONG!!! He gave me NO POINTS and only said "what is this?" in the comments (I'm homeschooled...). I was so FRICKIN' MAD becuase I really wanted to bumpo my grade just a little higher before the end of school!!! And now I have to work twice as hard because the stupid teacher CAN'T READ MY DIRECTIONS!!! He questioned the method that I was using when I had clearly stated what I was doing!!! And yet my highschool algebra teacher CAN'T SEEM TO TAKE A HINT!!! THIS IS SO DANG DARNED STUPID THAT I DON'T KNOW IF I SHOULD CRY, YELL, OR NUMB OUT MY FEELINGS!!! I just worked SO HARD and my mom is coming home soon (she's running an errand). But she'll see my grade and ask me about it and I'll break into helpless sobbing again and she'll tell me to stop it 'cause I'm a teenager now and that I can't keep this up becuase dad is retiring from the Air Force so we need to travel from the top of the country to the bottom while the RV is getting fixed from the branch that fell in the roof and that I really need to clean my room and pack my stuff and GET MY STUPID SCHOOL WORK DONE!!!!!!! I just REALLY hope something makes me feel better soon. I'm glad that I found this thread. :')

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I have tons of things on my mind right now. It seems like every free minute alone I'm crying nowadays...

I hate my hair. I hate my face. I hate my clothes. I hate my body. I'm not overweight or anything, but all my friends are super skinny so it makes me feel that way. For instance I went shopping with my friends and we wanted to get matching off the shoulder tops. We each got a medium.

When I wear my medium, it's only a little loose, mostly tight, and only goes down to my rib cage. When my friends wear it, it's so baggy and actually hangs off their shoulder like it should.

I'm embarrased to wear it. It's sitting in the back of my closet right now; I've only worn it once because they made me. My mom tells me I'm beautiful and I have gorgeous eyelashes...I still feel like crap.

Yeah. Sorry for ranting. My eyes are watering as I write this.
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I have tons of things on my mind right now. It seems like every free minute alone I'm crying nowadays...

I hate my hair. I hate my face. I hate my clothes. I hate my body. I'm not overweight or anything, but all my friends are super skinny so it makes me feel that way. For instance I went shopping with my friends and we wanted to get matching off the shoulder tops. We each got a medium.

When I wear my medium, it's only a little loose, mostly tight, and only goes down to my rib cage. When my friends wear it, it's so baggy and actually hangs off their shoulder like it should.

I'm embarrased to wear it. It's sitting in the back of my closet right now; I've only worn it once because they made me. My mom tells me I'm beautiful and I have gorgeous eyelashes...I still feel like crap.

Yeah. Sorry for ranting. My eyes are watering as I write this.
People have different body frames, and if you have a slightly thicker bone structure, it doesn't mean you're fat. And it doesn't matter the shirt is tighter than it is for you than your super-skinny friends. But I feel like that ALL the time too. So I get as far away from the mirror as possible and write something on my computer while trying to avoid the black sections of the screen so that I won't be able to see my reflection. *fail advice*
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